Trust

I went to sleep late and awoke early so am now a mix of tired and totally jacked up. Brain is jumping. My birthing class was awesome last night. Learning new stuff but mostly reviewing things I already now at least a bit about. But the cool part is how D. and I are becoming parents. Now. We are learning how to work as partners on this crazy ride. We are taking classes called The Bradley Method which I highly recommend. It is based on the principle of husband coached birth. Which is awesome because when you find an amazing partner, you see how they all they want to do during your pregnancy is protect you and the baby, but don’t really know how to do that. It can be frustrating and alienating for both of you. The classes teach you how to communicate physically and emotionally with an emphasis on natural birth and relaxation. But the tools you learn can be applied to hospital births if you so chose. It is all about knowledge and empowerment, 2 aspects that are often taken away from women. The more I am learning the more excited and somewhat angry I feel. We are fearful about birth and do not trust our bodies. I will admit that I had about a week during my pregnancy where I freaked out and was like “maybe I do want drugs and a C-section”. But that wasn’t me talking, that was fear. I had been in denial over the whole birthing part of pregnancy and then boom the reality hit. But my midwives talked me through everything and I began reading more and even looked at the vaginal birth photos which before grossed me out. It all is freaking miraculous. I feel strong now. I trust my body. And that is big. I haven’t always had love or trust for my body. This baby inside is helping to change that. If you have not seen “The Business of being Born” go rent it today. You can also stream it on Netflix for free. I had seen it before but now that I am pregnant the stakes are higher. I stayed up way too late watching it, getting fired up and wanting to rise up and help things change. It will blow your mind. Ladies, we have been sold a bill of goods. We have been made to feel that we are not strong enough. Not brave enough. Not entitled to a glorious birth experience. It has to change. And it can when each one of us reclaim our bodies. Inform yourself. It is so empowering for the baby, you and your partner. It is trust. This goes for all things really. We look outwardly to get changed, heal, healthy, more centered, etc. But each one of us holds the answers. If we can quiet the mind, move the body, eat good food, listen to our inner knowledge, we can have and do it all. 

xoxox, McLean